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This book offers parents and teachers constructive methods of discipline, useful for everyday situations. It documents the long-term negative effects of spanking?how it brutalizes kids and creates violent adults. Irwin Hyman, an expert in the field of home and school discipline, explains in a passionate and compelling style why spanking or hitting children is abusive, destructive, and counterproductive. He then gives common sense advice on alternative forms of discipline, which help to raise happy and emotionally stable children.

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Wonderful book.

by Colleen McKinney from Nunnelly, TN on 2005-12-06
I have to say that this book is very well written. I feel that everyone should read this book, although I know some would probably never even consider reading a book like this. I didn't believe in spankings before I read this book, but now I don't feel so left out. Everyone I know spanks their kids and I am the "odd ball". I get criticized alot, but this book has made me feel alot better about who I am as a parent and a person. The author did a good job explaining why he believes the way he does and I have to give him credit. He is very intelligent and brave.

Parents need to know how to discipline w/o spanking...

by Bryan J. Davis from Central Coast, CA on 2006-07-22
My parents used corporal punishment. Because of this, I vowed never to spank my children. I didn't know how to discipline, though - what to do IN PLACE of spanking. My daughter is now almost 30 and the mother of my beautiful 3 year old granddaughter. My daughter graduated from college, was an honor student praised by all her teachers throughout school, she never got into trouble the law, or misbehaved beyond giving me a bit of "normal teenage attitude". And she wasn't spanked! My son is 21, mentally handicapped, a well behaved, loving adult with a great sense of humor. Spanking is useless with a special needs child. To the reviewer between 8 & 13 who wrote "it's ridiculous not to spank", my heart breaks for you. You're being lied to if someone has told you that spanking is necessary. The author doesn't suggest that parents NOT discipline their children. What he HAS written is that there are other methods of discipline besides spanking. And, BTW, the author has an advanced education and clinical studies to support his work. Bryan's wife

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Think Good - Feel Good is an exciting and pioneering new practical resource in print and on the internet for undertaking Cognitive Behaviour Therapy with children and young people. The materials have been developed by the author and trialled extensively in clinical work with children and young people presenting with a range of psychological problems. Paul Stallard introduces his resource by covering the basic theory and rationale behind Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and how the workbook should be used. An attractive and lively workbook follows which covers the core elements used in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy programmes but conveys these ideas to children and young people in an understandable way and uses real life examples familiar to them. The practical series of exercises and worksheets introduce concepts that can be applied to each unique set of problems. Think Good - Feel Good provides the clinician with a range of flexible and highly appealing materials that can be used to structure and facilitate clinical sessions. This is a "must have" resource for clinical psychologists, child and adolescent psychiatrists, community psychiatric nurses, educational psychologists and occupational therapists. Social workers, school nurses, practice counsellors and health visitors would also find this resource to be of great value.

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Great CBT Tool for Working with Children

by A Child Counselor from on 2005-07-05
This is a great and easy to use workbook with a number of very helpful worksheets to present the concepts of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to Children. The authors have created a website that allows you to download the worksheets onto your computer to use in a clean and colorful format. If you work with children and use the concepts of CBT, this is a great tool to help children look at the connection between their thoughts and behaviors.

Think Good-Feel Good: A Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Workbook For Children

by Jenn from Northern Ca on 2007-03-08
I liked this book. My young clients had good feedback on the worksheets.

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In recent years there has been an increase in research into childhood depression, and it is now recognised that depression can severely impair young people in many aspects of their life, school, peer and social relationships, and frequently persists into adulthood. Depression: Cognitive Behaviour Therapy with Children and Young People provides an accessible guide to recognising and treating depression in young people. Based on a successful manual developed for research trials, this book presents an overview of a cognitive behavioural model for working with this age group, as well as practical ideas about how to start therapy. Topics covered include: engaging young people setting goals for therapy cognitive behaviour assessment and formulation solutions for problems practitioners may face encouraging parents and agencies to support therapy. Depression includes case examples and practical tips to prepare the practitioner for working with young people. Information is presented in a readable and practical style making this book ideal for professionals working in child and adolescent mental health services, as well as those in training. It will also be a useful guide for people working in community services for young people. Online resources: The appendices of this book contain worksheets that can be downloaded free of charge to purchasers of the print version. Please visit the website to find out more about this facility

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Entirely revised, rewritten and augmented with 11 completely new chapters, this new edition builds strongly on the aims of the previous edition to provide the latest scientific validation of cognitive behaviour therapy with practical treatment guidance for clinical child psychologists and psychiatrists working with disturbed children. Coverage ranges broadly from school refusal and adjustment to parental divorce through eating and sleeping disorders to substance abuse. It will be invaluable to clinicians wanting to provide ever more effective psychological treatment for children and families. From a review of the first edition: ' ... clearly written by a number of international authorities in the field. ... This book will be useful to child psychiatrists and other child mental health professionals, as well as social workers, educationalists and school nurses. It is highly recommended for bench and departmental libraries.' European Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

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A child psychologist takes an entirely new approach to discipline that will be a welcome relief to parents of two- to eight-year-olds. By emphasizing a teaching rather than a punishing attitude, Dr. Williamson creates a positive way to discipline effectively. Serial rights to Working Mother.

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by Amy R. Hartke from on 2008-01-29
This book is great...it arrived in exceptional time. It is in a little worse condition than described, but still great for the price.

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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is characterised by a person's obsessive, distressing, intrusive thoughts and their related compulsions. It affects an estimated one percent of teenagers and has been detected in children as young as three years old. In this concise, accessible book experienced contributors provide detailed guidance on carrying out assessments and treatment for children and young people with OCD from a cognitive behavioural perspective. This approach has been developed from extensive research and clinical work with young people with OCD and associated problems. The book includes: an overview of OCD an introduction to CBT and its relevance to OCD in young people assessment and treatment methods case studies and clinical vignettes worksheets for use with the client. This straightforward text provides essential direction for practitioners and trainees in a range of professions including psychiatry, psychotherapy, counselling, nursing, education and social work. Online resources: The appendices of this book provide worksheets that can be downloaded free of charge to purchasers of the print version. Please visit the website to find out more about this facility.

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Make a Difference During the Most Important Years of Your Child's LifeThe months leading up to the birth of a child are filed with joy, dreams, plans—and a few worries. As a caring parent, you want to start your child out in life on the proper foundation. But where do you go for the answers to such questions as: How do I communicate with an infant who doesn't understand words? How can I effectively teach boundaries to my toddler? Should I ever spank my child?Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust Jane Nelsen's classic Positive Discipline series. These books offer a commonsense approach to child-rearing that so often is lacking in today's world. In Positive Discipline: The First Three Years, you'll learn how to use kind but firm support to raise a child who is both capable and confident. You'll find practical solutions and solid advice on how to:•Encourage independence and exploration while providing appropriate boundaries •Use non-punitive methods to instill valuable social skills and positive behavior inside and outside the home •Recognize when your child is ready to master the challenges of sleeping, eating, and potty training, and how to avoid the power struggles that often come with those lessons •Identify your child's temperament •Understand what the latest research in brain development tells us about raising healthy children •And much, much more!Containing real-life examples of challenges other parents and caregivers have faced, Positive Discipline: The First Three Years is the one book that no parent should be without.

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Did everyone else who reviewed this book actually read it???

by H. King from Decatur, GA, USA on 2006-04-06
First of all, let me say that nowhere in this book do the authors advocate weaning by twelve months or letting a baby "cry it out," as some reviewers claimed. If it did, I would have put it down right away in the bookstore and not bought it. If it seemed to clash with Attachment Parenting, a style I am fond of and have used for most of my daughter's nearly three years, I also would have been less inclined to read it. But it doesn't do any of those things. As far as nursing, it merely encourages mothers to watch their children for signs of readiness to wean, instead of forcing a pre-determined schedule for weaning (whether it be at three months or three years). I know several people whose children weaned themselves around one year, so I think there is some truth to the idea that some babies are ready to wean then. I personally nursed my daughter until just over two, so I am not biased against extended nursing. And neither are the authors--they just say to find resources such as La Leche League and other books to discuss nursing, weaning, and extended nursing further. This is not their area of expertise, and they do not claim it to be. As far as Attachment Parenting (AP), this book makes no reference to it, period. Some reviewers have said that it is pro-AP and some said it is against-AP. I can't find evidence of either. As I said, I raised my daughter so far strongly guided by the principles of AP. However, she is almost three, and I feel that I need some other philosophies to guide me in my choices. I have not read The Discipline Book by Dr. Sears, but from what I hear it is like most of his books and a bit repetitive of information in all of his books (many of which I have read). I needed a new approach, so I came to the Positive Discipline camp. To quote the book, "The key is a balance that meets the needs of everyone concerned. A baby should not be left in a playpen or infant seat too long, and a parent should not feel like a slave to his or her child." Furthermore, they say, "When in doubt, always trust your heart." Now how does this conflict with Attachment Parenting? I personally felt like a slave to my child many times when strictly following the guidelines of AP. I am not at all of the mindset that babies should toughen up or learn to soothe themselves at a young age, but there are times in life when we as parents need a break--like to shower, cook a meal, tend to another child, or go to the bathroom alone. This book helps parents find that balance. This book is very helpful in demonstrating age appropriateness. It helps to be reminded that a toddler's brain is not like ours, and that they are not capable of understanding concepts that we think they should. There are several ways the author suggests to see for yourself, and that is extremely helpful. To acknowledge this is not insulting to my or my child's intelligence (as one reviewer said); it is honoring it. Humans have extremely complex brains and it takes time to develop them. A three year old's brain is not nearly as developed as ours. Period. On the same token, we should not force infants as that reviewer said into "Infant education." That is absurd. Some parents go overboard in trying to "teach" their infants things they are not ready to understand yet. Let kids be kids. Play is a children's work. They learn through experience and discovery, not through videos, TV, flashcards or "lessons" at four hour intervals at age three. That is what the authors are saying. As far as footnotes, this book isn't written in that format. It's not supposed to be a research summary. It is a book to guide parents in disciplining their children. The authors do in fact reference researchers, which is all they need to do for this type of book. It would be helpful if reviewers of this and other books mentioned their children's ages. I can see how this would not be helpful immediately for parents of an infant. Other books are more appropriate for that age. I bought this book after hearing a lot of great things from parents whose parenting styles are similar to mine and have pleasant, well-behaved children. I have used some of the methods and strategies that the authors suggest and IT WORKS!!! I was at my wits' end with my daughter. She went through a strong testing phase and about did me in. I tried everything--time outs, removal of priveledges, and even a pop on the bottom (twice only, when she was totally out of control). Nothing worked and it all got worse. She went from having a time out once a week to three times a week to three times a day within a couple of weeks. Just as the authors say, punishment does not work. "Children do better when they feel better" they say, and when they are punished, they think to themselves, "I'm bad." Well guess what? My daughter has even said to me, "I'm bad," even though I have NEVER uttered those words or anything like it to her. And neither has anyone who has taken care of her, either. This is a judgement she came up with because she was being punished. I, however, have taken time out. The first time she had a tantrum after reading this book and using the methods (tantrums do happen, the authors say, despite our best efforts), I took a timeout and as the authors suggested I ignored her, picked up a book, and moved to a different room. She finally calmed down, I gave her a hug, did not make a big deal about it, and everything was fine. I let her know that having a tantrum was not going to get her way, nor would she be punished for showing her emotions. She got out her frustration in her tantrum, felt better, then moved onto something else. I highly recommend this book. It has saved my sanity and possibly my relationship with my daughter. I look forward to reading more from these authors.

Great for Laying a Trusting Foundation

by Kelly Hager Pfeiffer from Greenville, SC United States on 2000-04-10
This book is so helpful. It discusses why time out is not appropriate for children ages 3 and under and why children don't always understand things they way that we adults do. I'm surprised to have read in another review that this book was not helpful for young children who can't talk. I am wondering if the reviewer got this book mixed up with Nelsen, Erwin, and Duffy's other book "Positive Discipline for Preschoolers". The covers have the same colors and block style, but different titles and different info. on the inside. I can't recall any info. in any of the Positive Discipline that discusses reasoning with a child. Nelsen, Erwin and Duffy promote joint problem solving for preschoolers on a novice level in their book on preschoolers. This book promotes the importance of childproofing and supervision and explains vital child development information.

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I was disappointed with this book...

by from New Albany, IN USA on 2002-03-09
I pre-ordered this book based on the attractive cover and the names on the editorial board. I'm a big Dr. Sears fan and was very excited to see a book on positive discipline endorsed by him that focused on toddlers. Unfortunately, I was disappointed and plan to send it back. There wasn't anything I didn't agree with, but there just wasn't much substance. I typically enjoy workbook style books, but many pages were half-filled with room for notes that appeared to me to be simply filler." I just wanted more. I've since read "Redirecting Children's Behavior," by Kathryn Kvols and found it to be an excellent guide. I'm a Master's level therapist and think the book by Kathryn Kvols will be highly valuable both in my work with kids and families as well as providing me with a solid philosophy and effective techniques for parenting my son now as a young toddler through to the teenage years. Even though I found no fault with the content of this book, (and still love Dr. Sears) I would not recommend this book.

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In this now-classic, straightforward approach to childraising, Nancy Samalin shows parents how to set clear, concise guidelines to ensure positive and constructive discipline. Based on her extensive work with parents and children, she offers the most recent and invaluable advice on: * Avoiding daily battles * Using alternatives to punishment * Dealing with anger * Learning to let go * Diminishing sibling rivalries and much, much more. Filled with practical solutions to everyday problems and thoughtful, useful information on opening up communication between the generations, Loving Your Child Is Not Enough will help parents to truly enjoy their child's growing years. * Nancy Samalin is a contributing editor to Parents magazine with a regular column on discipline. * Available on audiocassette from Penguin*HighBridge Audio

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I Constantly Recomend This Book To My Clients

by Daphne J. Schuster from Long Island, New York on 2000-03-27
As a practicing Marriage and Family Psychotherapist and former elementary school principal, I must have read hundreds of books on how to discipline children effectively. However, the problem with many of them is that the emphasis is generally on how to get children to behave cooperatively, rather than on how to raise emotionally healthy, happy, responsible children who know how think for themselves. Nancy's book is the best match I've seen for the methods that therapists believe are most effective in developing high self-esteem in kids. The author helps parents and teachers understand that, by treating children with dignity and respect and listening to their feelings,our kids will WANT to do the 'RIGHT THING'. Loving Your Child Is Not Enough is written in clear, easy-to-read chapters filled with examples we all can relate to. I often recommend that busy moms and dads buy the cassette version and listen and talk about it, and I frequently use Nancy's explanations in describing good parenting to my clients - AND to their children! I also suggest that readers will want to read other books written by Sammalin.

Thank you Nancy for the best book on parenting ever!

by Bea Marquette from on 2000-11-12
A copy of Nancy Samalin's Loving Your Child is Not Enough should be handed to every new parent. In a perfect world, it would be required reading for all parents. Nancy shows us the way to stress free parenting where everyone's self esteem remains intact and results abound. I have learned to rethink my responses in situations that would previously have been governed by anger or frustation. Now I can react with humor and common sense. No more lectures or belittling. I use Nancy's methods in my classroom where I am surrounded by happy children who love school. I offer Nancy's books to parents who come to me with questions about parenting. I strongly recommend this book to everyone who is a parent searching for advice on how to raise children with love, compassion and wisdom. Thank you Nancy for the best book on parenting ever!

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This book discusses what's the relationship between selfesteem and student achievement? Find the answers to this and other questions in this book.

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Excellent, Enlightening, Powerful.

by Kesha Richardson from Atlanta on 2007-10-29
I am the mother of 3 young boys and I am so glad that I found this book when I did. It is an excellent read for parents and concerned teachers, administrators, etc. who want to better understand how to nurture, protect and educate our children. It is also enlightening as it deals with our current public school systems and gives profound advice on how to counteract the challenges that many a mother and father are facing. It is also easy to understand and interpret and gives researchable information. What I also like about this book is that it is not inundated with heavy technical terms. While it is very intelligent, it is in plain black and white English. Also, the charts and comparisons are wonderful. I would recommend this book to any parent whose priority is the education of their children. Kudos to Dr. Kunjufu!

Positive Black Images

by Floretta O'brien from NYC on 2006-11-10
An excellent read and a must have for all African-American families. The book guides parents and others in our community on ways to navigate through a system that is not geared for the positive growth and development of our children. It gives us positive ways to overcome this system without condemning the system itself. Dr. Kunjufu is to be congratulated for producing another valuable tool for African-American families.

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Designed for use by both parents and children, this book discusses issues affecting desirable human behavior. There are chapters on self-esteem, pleasure and pain, shame, guilt, sympathy, and love.

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In her private practice, Mary-Elaine Jacobsen worked with thousands of parents to help them with their defiant, obnoxious, and challenging children. By following her program parents have seen their children's arguing, tantrums, and disobedience come to an end.In THE BRAT STOPS HERE, Dr. Jacobsen comprehensively outlines her program for giving parents the essential tools they need to set limits and expectations and follow through with their kids when they cross the line. The key to Dr. Jacobsen's program is the Privileges On/Privileges Off approach. When a child does not comply with the rules of the house (which are carefully explained to the child in an age appropriate manner), he or she loses all privileges and must earn them back by apologizing, acknowledging what they would do differently, doing what was asked of them in the first place, and performing an additional chore. Following this approach consistently over the course of five weeks will have a dramatic effect on the household--including reducing tension in the interaction between parents and children, developing skills that will help children get along better at home and at school, and laying the foundation for children to become self-sufficient, responsible adults.

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Empowering, Inspiring, Real --- Practical Advice For Empowering Today's Parents!

by S. R. Bradley from California on 2006-02-25
This gem is well written and includes practical and action-oriented plans for restoring balance to family life. While other books try to explain theory and behavior, this book focuses on parenting actions and reminds us that our job as parents is to raise our children to become healthy functioning adults. The book makes it easy to see how certain unmanaged behaviors, when allowed to continue, develop into habits and then permanent personality traits. And these personality traits contribute to tomorrow's social problems, distressful workplaces, and dysfunctional families. In clear and simple terms, Dr. Jacobsen explains where to focus our time and attention, how to redirect our child's behavior, and when to make these changes in our parenting behaviors. This book will help those who feel pressured to give their children every advantage but have forgotten their primary job as parents: to support our children in becoming respectful, caring and responsible adults. The book outlines a step-by-step plan and reminds us of the basics that can be easily lost in our busy lives. With this renewed perspective on your parenting responsibilities, you will no longer be confused between rights and privileges. The Brat Stops Here! empowers parents with a program that makes sense, restores honor to family life, and most importantly, maintains the dignity of our children.

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Winner of a 2003 National Parenting Publications Gold Award! Quick, effective solutions for stopping bad behavior and getting your family back on track Tantrums. Hitting. Open defiance. A child's bursts of bad behavior can leave parents completely baffled. But while there's no such thing as a perfect child, there are effective ways to redirect poor behavior. The Baffled Parent's Guide to Stopping Bad Behavior has fast answers to defuse any situation. Organized by topic for easy access and designed to help make family life as harmonious as possible, this hands-on guide provides advice to correct bad behavior, create new responses to previously annoying behavior, and establish an atmosphere that encourages good behavior. Inside, you'll discover: How to discipline with care, caution, and consistency The importance of setting a good example How to speak to your child so that he or she will listen The proper use of timeouts How to handle tantrums Great ideas to stop whining Ways to suggest replacing "good" words for "bad" words And much more!

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Good guide for dealing with common problem behaviors

by Lisa Drozdick from San Antonio, TX USA on 2003-10-26
This is a clear, well written guide to dealing with behaviors every parent faces. It offers sound advice on how to deal with behaviors from whining to bullying and when to seek professional help. Advice is presented well with main points highlighted and clear examples of how to apply the advice. It was extremely well laid out and easy to read. I particularly enjoyed the information on causes of behaviors as well as dealing with them. By the end of the book, parents have a clear idea of how to figure out what is causing a behavior and have some suggestions on how to change or eliminate the behavior.

Great Resource for Parents

by from Hiawatha, IA United States on 2003-10-26
This book is a great resource for parents on how to discipline their children. I thought it was easy to read and I could easily access the topics that I really need to focus on with my children. Kate Kelly understands the current struggles that parents go through and offers tips on how to effectively discipline children.

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Mommy comforts Grover after he has a bad, awful day.

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Super -- even our 2-year old loves it

by from on 2003-10-09
Granted, this book is better for a slightly older age-group, on average, but our daughter adores Grover so I bought the book anyway. We all very much enjoy reading about Grover's troubles from morning to dinnertime as he goes through a day of home and playgroup. Grover stubs his toe getting out of bed, pours milk on the table at breakfast, is late to playgroup with Herry/Harry monster, forgets what letter comes after "Q", forgets his lunch, is disappointed when the lunch his friend shares in not the kind his Mommy makes him, is excluded from tackle football at recess by the larger monsters in protective gear, drops the ice cream from his cone, and gets his boot stuck in gum on the way home. His Mother is very kind when they arrive home and he tells her about his day. She helps him retrieve and clean his boot, and takes him for ice cream (where they see the larger monsters from school who invite Grover to play tickle football the next day). Very, very sweet book. Pretty wordy for most under about 3.5 years old, in my opinion. Highly recommended!

Nicely done

by Pepperment from on 2008-12-24
I remember having loved this book as a child so, when I needed to use 10 books for different lessons plans for my education class this was one of the books I wanted to use. I reread it and, let me tell you at 25 years old this is still a feel good book. Every one of us has bad days. On these days it is important for us to remember that we still need to love our self and forgive ourself. This book is a keeper and im hanging on to mine!

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The books in this series aim to tackle the problems that confront every parent as their children grow up. The author, a child psychologist, gives practical advice on everyday problems of discipline, and considers the best methods for keeping peace while still maintaining control.

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--What can I do to help my child now?--What are the symptoms of ADD? --What questions will the doctor ask me about my child? --Do children with AD/HD qualify for special education? --Should I medicate my child?ADD and ADHD are estimated to affect at least 3 to 7 percent of school-age children and the amount of information available on the subject can be overwhelming, confusing and oftentimes, conflicting. The ADD & ADHD Answer Book is a reassuring, authoritative reference for you and your family, providing sound advice and immediate answers to your most pressing questions. The book also includes questionnaires and checklists to help you get the most out of your child's evaluation.Written in an easy-to-read question and answer format, The ADD & ADHD Answer Book helps you understand your child's illness and develop a plan to help them succeed.

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Stop looking for a magic answer....this books tells you what to do!

by Iliana from Los Angeles, CA on 2005-10-14
After spending many years, thousands of dollars, countless hours and many wasted emotions of hope on supposed cures, I find it a relief to read the truth in this book. Fact of the matter is, there is no cure for ADD or ADHD and this books tells you like it is, which is basically that we as parents have to get down to learning the appropriate ways to help our children and quit looking for the easy solution in a pill, a brain machine or an herbal remedy. This book has given many different ways that I can help my child and I wished I'd had it years ago.

One of the best I've read

by Carla S. Hix from Pasadena, California on 2005-09-24
This is one of the best books on ADD and ADHD that I have read. As a professional in the field, I will be recommending this book to the families I work with. It addresses all the questions that come up in the course of treatment. Packed with the latest research yet easy to read.

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A no-nonsense guide for parents Being a parent to a teenager can often be an overwhelming job. Longtime psychologists, educators, and parents Lois and Joel Davitz offer sound advice and reassurance in this book that focuses on some of the major concerns and questions that parents have today. The issues are unflinchingly honest and the answers are not simple; they are, however, right on the mark. This engaging book: --draws on the authors' experience as parents, not just as professionals. --can be picked up and read a section at a time whenever one has a free moment. --is compassionate, humorous and above all, hopeful in tone.

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This book provides the reader with answers to the most frequently asked questions on the subject of parenting in North America from an Islamic perspective. The answers cover a variety of topics such as correcting behavior, schooling, environment, celebrations, sex education, and others. The answers to the FAQs in this book represent crucial issues of concern occupying the minds of many parents. The methodology used in answering these questions draws heavily on verses of the Qur¹an, teachings of Prophet Muhammad SAAW, and events in his Seerah, as well as the authors¹ wealth of practical experience, gained from their countless parenting counseling sessions over the years, and their knowledge of child psychology. Drs. Ekram and Mohamed Rida Beshir as a wife/husband team, together co-authored several best-selling parenting books such as "Meeting the Challenge of Parenting in the West," "Muslim Teens, Today¹s Worry, Tomorrow¹s Hope," "Blissful Marriage" and "Parenting Skills based on Qur¹an and Sunnah." They have also authored parenting books in Arabic. Some of their parenting books have been translated to French and German languages. They are teaching two courses on the subject of parenting with the Islamic American University. They are both regular contributors to the family section of several magazines such as "American Muslim," "Islamic Horizons", and the "Message magazine." Both Drs. Ekram and Mohamed Rida Beshir are also advisers on the Islam online website family section. Drs. Ekram and Mohamed Rida Beshir are the recipients of the City of Ottawa Certificate of Appreciation for the year 2003 for their volunteer work in the area of Education. They have traveled extensively, presenting workshops to various Muslim communities all over the world.

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Excellent Book

by Alias Shaik from on 2008-05-25
The book is mashallah very good. I use to have many questions in my mind and after reading the book allahdulliah i got my questions answered. It is a must read book for any parents. After reading the 1st of the book i am planning to purchase the second part of the book. Thanks for the writer for there good effort.

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Empowering parents with practical and fun ways to impart spiritual and ethical principles to their children, this book provides real-world tools for spiritually minded moms and dads. With advice based on Buddhist wisdom but grounded in the reality of modern American life, Karma Mama, Dharma Dad, and Buddha Baby offers strategies that make family interactions more rewarding and meaningful. The book shows parents how to instill an alternative set of principles in their children, and engages kids in fun activities such as games to play in the car and stories to read aloud that teach generosity, compassion, patience, and mindful decision making.

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Not What You May Be Expecting

by K. Holechek from Portland, OR on 2005-07-27
As a Westerner who has studied Buddhism I was very interested in what this book could offer. I was immeadiatley not impressed with the enormous margins in the book, which is already on the small side of things, to compensate for a lack of material. The book had some good things to offer, like questions to ask you kids to initiate conversation about their spiritual beliefs and whatnot. But the bulk of the book left me questioning how much the writer understands Buddhism and applies it to his own life. There were red flags that stood out, such as not apologizing to your children should you take out your bad day on them because it will make them feel like they have power. Um, excuse me? Where's the compassion in that? There are strange ideas and application of Buddhism sprinkled throughout, such as how non-attachment helped the writer cope with the Chicago Cubs being such a bad team (and the significance of the Cubs in the first place is..?). This book also attempts to pretend that it can apply to people of all faiths, but some of the elements of Buddihsm and stories that he uses would out right contridict with the beliefs of other major faiths and would possibly offend those readers. Overall, some of the questions in it are thought provoking, but nothing that couldn't be figured out from brainstorming with other parents and just doing some thinking on your own. To someone who is new to Eastern thought there could be some good things in this, but I was greatly disappointed.

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This casebook illustrates the rich and arresting nature of disorders that first manifest themselves in childhood while also showing how a child's developmental patterns shape the expression of each disorder. Each complex case demonstrates how each disorder is expressed--from presentation through diagnosis and treatment--in an effective way. Throughout the book, the author explores the DSM-IV-TR criteria and demonstrates the interaction between developmental and environmental influences for each disorder.

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Essential to Developmental Psychopathologists

by Shira Pilarski from Silver Spring, MD on 2008-08-25
This casebook provides a practical approach to learning about Developmental Psychopathology. A number of disorders are discussed, such as learning disabilities, elimination disorders, conduct disorders, and substance abuse. Each chapter features a different case, and for each case, the author describes the symptoms, assessment, risk factors and maintaining variables, developmental aspects, and treatment. The author has also contributed discussion questions at the end of each chapter to ensure full comprehension of the disorder at hand. In addition to the common (and not-so-common) classifiable disorders, there are three "mixed cases", featuring symptoms from a variety of disorders. These cases are effective in educating the reader on how to treat vague cases. While I purchased this book as a requirement for a Developmental Psychology course, I still reference it regularly and find it captivating and compelling. Really, this book is a must for anyone interested in Developmental Psychopathology or Psychology.

A LOOK INTO CHILD PSYCHOPATHOLOGY

by Tazzie from CALIFORNIA on 2003-06-08
THIS IS A VERY TOUCHING BOOK OF CASE STORIES ABOUT CHILDREN WITH DISORDERS. EACH CHAPTER IS A DIFFERENT CASE STORY DEALING WITH CHILD PSYCHOPATHOLOGY. THE STORIES ARE SOMETIMES SAD BUT REALLY WILL OPEN YOUR EYES TO THE TERRIBLE TRAMA MANY OF THESE CHILDREN HAVE TO GO THROUGH GROWING UP. TAKING A LOOK AT THE ENVIRONMENT THE CHILDREN LIVE IN, THE WAY THEY ARE TALKED TO AND THE OTHERS ARE TALKED TO IN THE HOUSE, MAKES A PERSON REALIZE THAT OFTEN THE PROBLEMS WE SEE IN CHILDREN ARE ACTUALLY THE CAUSE OF THEIR PARENTS.EACH CHAPTER HAS A SECTION ON ASSESSMENT, TREATMENT, ETC., FROM THE THERAPIST POINT OF VIEW. IT REFERS TO THE DSM-IV AND LIST THE CRITEREA FOR DIAGNOSIS.I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS BOOK TO ANYONE WHO CARES ABOUT CHILDREN AND ANYONE WHO HAD SOME TYPE OF TRAUMA GROWING UP. I ALSO RECOMMEND IT TO PSYCHOLOGY STUDENTS OR ANYONE INTERESTED IN PSYCHOLOGY.

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Renowned authors Barbara Kaiser and Judy Sklar Rasminsky once again help teachers to discover effective ways to address challenging behavior in the classroom!   Making full use of Barbara Kaiser's 30 years of experience as a child care director and teacher, the Second Edition of Challenging Behavior in Young Children provides an in-depth look into the latest research on understanding and preventing challenging behavior and offers practical and effective strategies for responding to it, including positive behavior support and functional assessment, as mandated by IDEA.   Based on the authors’ 40-page booklet Meeting the Challenge (1999), this new edition maintains the personal touch and real-life examples teachers have grown to rely on. It includes new chapters on relationships and inclusion as well as the latest information on risk and protective factors, culture, the brain, self-reflection, working with families, and bullying.   Challenging Behavior in Young Children emphasizes the teacher’s role in the behavior of children, helping students and educators to reflect on their own values, feelings, and actions. The result is an invaluable resource for everyone involved in the education of young children.

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Every teacher needs this book!

by Joan Rosen from Bronx, New York United States on 2003-09-17
Don't let the idea that this is a textbook put you off.I have been teaching for almost 30 years and there is no doubt in my mind that this book is for teachers as well as students. No matter how many years you've been teaching, you never know when you're going to meet that child who makes you question your choice of profession. Challenging Behavior in Young Children is fun to read and packed with useful information. It helps you to prevent aggressive behavior and respond to children who are out of control, and it provides insight and food for thought even for teachers like me who have many years of experience.

For anyone with children in their life!!

by Carol Patterson from Montreal, Quebec, Canada on 2003-02-15
As an educator with more than 15 years experience in the field and I have found this book to be one of the most effective and comprehensive tools for not only educators but for parents as well! The authors share their first hand knowledge, they have been there for the challenges and have sought out ways to help each child reach their potential. They then present what they have learned and guide us, the reader, through the difficulties in identifying and understanding a child with challenging behaviors. The clear day to day strategies will greatly help you and your child create and environment where success is possible!!

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Psychologists offer an increasing variety of services to the public. Among these services, psychological assessment of personality and behavior continues to be a central activity. One main reason is that other mental health professionals often do not possess a high level of competence in this area. And when dealing with children and adolescents, psychological assessment seems to take on an even greater role. Therefore, it follows that comprehensive graduate-level instruction in assessment should be a high priority for educators of psychologists who will work with these youth. This textbook is organized into three sections, consistent with the authors’ approach to teaching. Part I provides students with the psychological knowledge base necessary for modern assessment practice, including historical perspectives, measurement science, child psychopathology, ethical, legal, and cultural issues, and the basics of beginning the assessment process. Part II gives students a broad review of the specific assessment methods used by psychologists, accompanied by specific advice regarding the usage and strengths and weaknesses of each method. In Part III, we help students perform some of the most sophisticated of assessment practices: integrating and communicating assessment results and infusing assessment practice with knowledge of child development and psychopathology to assess some of the most common types of behavioral and emotional disorders in youth. A text focusing on assessment practices must be updated every four to six years to keep pace with advances in test development. For example, several of the major tests reviewed in the text, such as the Behavioral Assessment System for Children and the Child Behavior Checklist, have undergone major revisions since the publication of the last edition making the current content outdated. Further, another major test, the Conners’ Rating Scales, is undergoing substantial revisions that should be completed before publication of the next edition. Finally, the evidence for the validity of the tests and the recommendations for their appropriate use evolve as research accumulates and requires frequent updating to remain current. For example, there was a special issue of the Journal of Clinical Child and Adolescent Psychology published focusing on evidenced-based assessment of the major forms of childhood psychopathology that will need to be integrated into the chapters in Part 3. This latter point reflects an important trend in the field that should influence the marketing of the book. That is, there are several initiatives being started in all of the major areas of applied psychology (e.g., school, clinical, and counseling) to promote evidenced-based assessment practices. These initiatives have all emphasized the need to enhance the training of graduate students in this approach to assessment. This has been the orientation of this textbook from its first edition: that is, Clinical Assessment of Child and Adolescent Personality and Behavior has focused on using research to guide all recommendations for practice. The ability of the textbook to meet this training need should be an important focus of marketing the book to training programs across all areas of applied psychology.

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''Responds to new knowledge about how children think, learn, and develop language, and about the influences of families, culture, and other environmental influences.'' --Zero to Three''By providing detailed descriptions of the important aspects of a child's life (routines, use of materials, language, interactions, and more), giving specific questions to guide thoughtful observations, and offering a wealth of real examples, the authors inspire and teach us to observe and record more carefully. This new edition contains powerful lessons about child development, cultural influences, and why we should focus on understanding rather than measuring children.'' --Diane Trister Dodge, Founder & President of Teaching Strategies, Inc.With more than 120,000 copies in print, this classic text has been widely acclaimed as a highly effective tool to help teachers better understand children's behavior. The thoroughly revised and updated Fifth Edition outlines methods for record-keeping that provide a realistic picture of each child's interactions and experiences in the classroom. Numerous examples of teachers' observations of children from birth to age 8 enrich this work and make it accessible, practical, and enjoyable to read. Based on the latest thinking in the field, the new Fifth Edition is an even more valuable resource for pre- and inservice educators of young children. New features include updated observations that reflect the diverse population in contemporary classrooms, recent research on language and children with special needs, and a total revision of the chapter that relates thinking to Piagetian theory, with more relevant descriptions of the processes of assimilation and accommodation.

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Practical and thorough

by Mosaic36 from on 2001-08-14
If for research or documentation you have the need to observe children, this book will serve as a detailed guide to that process. It includes recording routines, a children's use of materials, peer interaction, child-adult interaction, play, adult-directed behavior, language, and finding patterns.

Raising Quality Care Through Careful Observation

by Patricia Dischler from Wisconsin on 2008-12-02
Now in its Fifth Edition, Observing and Recording the Behavior of Young Children, by Dorothy H. Cohen, Virginia Stern, Nancy Balaban and Nancy Gropper (Teachers College Press, 2008) is a valuable resource for family child care providers. Observation is a key element in a providers training background, a requirement in many cases such as with the Registry, the CDA and NAFCC accreditation. Observing and Recording the Behavior of Young Children gives providers a handbook of information to using appropriate observing and recording techniques as well as how to use this information to make decisions regarding a child's development and educational plan. The authors carefully examine each aspect of a child's day and the opportunities it presents for observation, teaching providers to do more than record what children do, but how, and in what context. "If we could say that understanding a child is like unraveling a mystery, then taking records is the gathering of clues," they tell us. This information allows providers to make discoveries in regard to why children do what they do. The book offers hundreds of examples of specific situations of observing a child, such as: during routines, while using materials, their behavior with other children, their behavior during dramatic play, their general play, their relationships with adults, and their cognitive functioning, among others. There are multiple lists of questions for the provider to ask themselves during an observation to help them get the most details. There is also a chapter discussing the use of language as a tool in recording, showing how the use of verbs, adverbs and adjectives can lead to a more accurate account of a child's behavior. There is also discussion on a child's temperament and culture and how it affects their behavior. Other chapter topics include: recording developing language and emergent literacy, observing and recording behavior of infants and toddlers and recording the behavior of children for whom there are special concerns. Finally, the book shows how to pull all this observation together to find patterns, and create a summary and interpretation to be used when discussing a child's progress with parents. Observing and Recording the Behavior of Young Children is a valuable tool for family child care providers looking to enhance their curriculum through individual observation and recording of children's behavior. By Patricia Dischler, national speaker and author "From Babysitter to Business Owner" Redleaf Press.

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Completely changed how I parent

by srspears@aol.com from Houston, TX on 1999-07-11
I was spanked as a child and thought that was how I would do it. Then I read this book and took the related class. It completely changed how I parent. Why spank when you can easily get your kids to cooperate in other wonderful, self-esteem building ways? I have been doing this method now for 3 years and my kids are obedient, confident, good problem solvers and get very positive comments from their teachers. I owe 60% of that to this book.

One of the most wonderful parenting books ever written

by Bargain Savvy Mom from on 2006-11-27
This book has wisdom that could not be learned in a thousand lifetimes of raising children. Quite simply it teaches you how to parent in an effective and non-judgemental way so that everyone's feelings and desires are considered but you still achieve your goals as a parent. I have used it on children, nieces & nephews and even adults my age and I must tell you that it works. For example, when a young nephew spilled apple juice on a niece's newly colored princess picture, she burst into tears. Her father tried in vain to distract her, telling her to stop crying, in order to end the extremely loud sobbing. (Any embarassed parent would do this! It's your first reaction and is so natural!) Remembering what this book had taught, I toweled up the apple juice and softly said "Let her mourn. It was a beautiful picture and a terrible accident has happened. My brother did the same thing to one of my drawings when I was in the second grade and it was heartbreaking. She has the right to be sad right now." Within an instant of a second my niece stopped her loud sobbing and stared at me in disbelief. Her dad was surprised, too, at how quickly the dramatic wails had ceased. A few big tears still rolled down her cheek and there certainly was a follow-up whimper or two, but she was instantly ready to get out the blow dryer and salvage the picture, all because I had said I understood her sadness and it was okay for her to cry. Why did it have the complete opposite effect? Because the frustration of being told to "quit crying" when she had a right to cry wasn't added to the mix of her emotions. She only had to deal with one emotion - the sadness - and when acknowledged by another, she was able to work through it much faster. I give this insightful book 100% credit for that outcome. I simply adore this book and although I found it almost mind-bending at times to read and comprehend, I truly cherish it. I sincerely mourn that the first copyright date was long before I was born and that my parents did not ever get their hands on this book. I am also sad that I have this wonderful knowledge and yet find it so hard to be as loving and non-judgemental towards my husband who I adore, although I would love to treat him so divinely. Read the book and you'll understand what I mean - you really do become sad each time you don't apply it's wisdom to solving the difficult situations you encounter in real-life relationships. The good news is this book gives you the power to change and is SO FUN to put into practice!

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Three points of view-parent's, therapist's, and child's-make this the most practical guide on the market for raising a child with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder or other behavioral issues.Traditional parenting and discipline books aren't effective for parents who are dealing with kids with ADHD, OCD, depression or other disorders. They need a guide that will help them with the unique discipline and organization challenges kids with these issues have. When getting up, going to school, completing homework, helping with chores, and getting to bed all become battlegrounds, the step-by-step proven techniques presented here will help parents achieve peace in their households. It will teach parents how to:¥ Engage in proactive, not reactive, parenting¥ Discipline consistently and effectively¥ Deal with stalling, forgetting, overreacting, and other everyday behavior problems¥ Work with a child's teachers, and more.

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A wonderful resource for parenting ideas

by Amy from Upstate NY on 2001-06-30
This is one of the best parenting books I have read. Don't let the title dissuade you from thinking that this book is only for families with ADHD children. It provides many ideas for organizing and structuring family life to reduce stress and lower the amount of yelling. The ideas are constructive and positive while the roles of punishment and negative re-enforcement are minimalized. A few of the ideas Sharon Weiss, the second author, gave me helped with getting my children to do their chores and teaching them how to structure their time so homework, getting out of the house in the morning and bedtime are not so laborous and time intensive. The ideas presented are helpful for younger age children not yet able to read to teenager.

These techniques really work!

by Susan Biggs from Fairfax, VA United States on 2001-06-12
As an educational therapist and parent of two children, I found this book to be helpful both for my clients and my family. The ideas make sense and implementing them is straight-forward. I tried several of the ideas at home to see if they are easier than they sound...wow...instant changes in problem behaviors! For example, my four year old would not stay in bed at bedtime. Offering her an incentive (5 pennies if she stayed in bed), and a consequence (lose a penny for each time out of bed) stopped the behavior in one night. 90 minutes of arguing to zero on the first try. I highly recommend this book to parents of easy and not so easy kids.

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Kids with ADHD need to be loved and shown how to become successful adults. Unfortunately, their lack of attention and restlessness often get in the way. Parents of these kids try so hard to stay connected and remain patient in the face of daily frustration. However, it is an incredible challenge to remain positive and involved when your child does not respond to the kinds of strategies that work for other children. Without guidance and systematic treatment, these bright, inquisitive children are unlikely to graduate from high school, are more prone to use illegal drugs, and struggle to maintain employment as adults. Parenting Children with ADHD: Lessons That Medicine Cannot Teach gives parents a framework for building a successful parenting program at home. Drawing from his experiences in evaluating and treating thousands of children and teens with ADHD, Vincent Monastra presents a series of ten lessons that are essential for promoting the success of kids with ADHD. In simple language, Monastra explains the causes of ADHD and how nutrition, medication and certain therapeutic procedures can improve attention, concentration, and behavioral control. Recognizing the importance of school success, Monastra also reviews the educational rights of children with ADHD and outlines a process for working with school districts to get your child the help they need. Beyond this foundation, Monastra describes non-confrontational ways to teach your child essential life skills like organization, problem-solving, and emotional control. Through guiding principles like "Work for Play" and "Time Stands Still", Monastra ends the struggle for control and helps children learn that in life you need to "earn your play" and apologise and "make amends" when you do something that hurts another person (or makes their life more difficult).

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Best of the ADHD books - read this one first

by Jennifer Koch from Flemington, NJ United States on 2006-08-03
This book is a winner. I have bought and read many different books on ADHD - from all perspectives - and I like this one the best. It is balanced on the medication issue, with accurate and well-researched medical explanations of the benefits and shortcomings. The title makes it seem anti-medication but the author does recommend medication (with certain caveats, and easy-to-understand explanations of the reasons it may not work well in some individuals), so don't be put off by this if your child is on medication. His goal is to go beyond a simple prescription to give the parent other helpful information that can provide a well-rounded approach to helping their ADHD child. The book is very practical, with questionnaires, checklists, or homework at the end of each chapter. If you are new to this topic, buy this one first. If you are a veteran but need more tips on how to help your child, this book still has plenty to offer you.

Great Information For Parents With an ADHD Child

by CJS from Florida on 2004-12-14
I have over 100 books on this subject and try read anything that will help my ADHD son. The old saying an informed consumer comes true with this disease. You are your child's own best advocate. Within this book I found some very helpful information I have not read before particularly with respect to diet and protein. The book offers some wonderful checklists for medication monitoring as well as guideline lists for 504 plans. It is written in clear concise language. I can tell you it has become a bible in my library of ADHD books. Kudos Dr. Monastra for putting some new light and useful information on this disease!

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What′s an explosive child? A child who responds to routine problems with extreme frustration-crying, screaming, swearing, kicking, hitting, biting, spitting, destroying property, and worse. A child whose frequent, severe outbursts leave his or her parents feeling frustrated, scared, worried, and desperate for help. Most of these parents have tried everything-reasoning, explaining, punishing, sticker charts, therapy, medication-but to no avail. They can′t figure out why their child acts the way he or she does; they wonder why the strategies that work for other kids don′t work for theirs; and they don′t know what to do instead. Dr. Ross Greene, a distinguished clinician and pioneer in the treatment of kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren′t attention-seeking, manipulative, or unmotivated, and their parents aren′t passive, permissive pushovers. Rather, explosive kids are lacking some crucial skills in the domains of flexibility/adaptability, frustration tolerance, and problem solving, and they require a different approach to parenting. Throughout this compassionate, insightful, and practical book, Dr. Greene provides a new conceptual framework for understanding their difficulties, based on research in the neurosciences. He explains why traditional parenting and treatment often don′t work with these children, and he describes what to do instead. Instead of relying on rewarding and punishing, Dr. Greene′s Collaborative Problem Solving model promotes working with explosive children to solve the problems that precipitate explosive episodes, and teaching these kids the skills they lack.

Flexibility and tolerance are learned skills, as any parent knows if they've seen an irascible 2-year-old grow into a pleasant, thoughtful, and considerate older child. Unfortunately, for reasons that are poorly understood, a few children don't "get" this part of socialization. Years after toddler tantrums should have become an unpleasant memory, a few unlucky parents find themselves battling with sudden, inexplicable, disturbingly violent rages--along with crushing guilt about what they "did wrong." Medical experts haven't helped much: the flurry of acronyms and labels (Tourette's, ADHD, ADD, etc.) seems to proffer new discoveries about the causes of such explosions, when in fact the only new development is alternative vocabulary to describe the effects. Ross Greene, a pediatric psychologist who also teaches at Harvard Medical School, makes a bold and humane attempt in this book to cut through the blather and speak directly to the (usually desperate) parents of explosive children. His text is long and serious, and has the advantage of covering an enormous amount of ground with nuance, detail, and sympathy, but also perhaps the disadvantage that only those parents who are not chronically tired and time-deprived are likely to get through the entire book. Quoted dialogue from actual sessions with parents and children is interspersed with analysis that is always oriented toward understanding the origins of "meltdowns" and developing workable strategies for avoidance. Although pharmacological treatment is not the book's focus, there is a chapter on drug therapies. --Richard Farr

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Finally, peace in our household

by Deanna Foster, djfoster@flash.net from Portola Valley, California US on 1998-12-15
After years of reading books on "strong-willed" or "difficult" children... and years of psychotherapy, Dr. Greene's fresh approach to what seemed an unsolvable problem has brought peace to our household for the first time in 8 years. I have bought a copy of this book for everyone that deals with my 10-year-old son: my parents, his teacher, his previous teacher, and the County Mental Health worker who is working with us on in-home behavior modification. I was very sceptical when I first learned of Dr. Greene's approach-- it sounded too easy ! But it truly, truly works.Dr. Greene put into words what I had always known about my child, but couldn't express cohesively. My son used to have several "melt-downs" each week, and I always wondered how much control he had over his own behavior and emotions. Now I know the answer, and also can recognize the various stages of escalation leading up to a rage episode. Applying Dr. Greene's "basket" principles, we haven't had a melt-down in 3 weeks, and my son's cooperation with our "basket A" and "basket B" requests is fantastic. No more melt-downs, no more frustrated adults. We actually have hope for a brighter future. Even school is going really, really well.Many thanks to Dr. Greene for giving us an alternative to manage our "inflexible, explosive" (but lovable) children !

Buy this book!

by Sherrilee from Detroit, MI on 1999-12-26
As a teacher of children with behavioral and emotional disorders, I found Greene's book extremely useful. In the first part of the book, he explores inflexibility and explosiveness in children (and biological/chemical factors influencing such behavior.) This section alone is worth its weight in gold for helping parents and teachers take a closer look at what's going on with their kids.The rest of the book is devoted to his "three basket" intervention method. I am beginning to use this technique in my classroom to help avoid "meltdowns" over issues that really aren't important and to help TEACH my students how to negotiate and cope in frustrating situations. I want my students to become more flexible not just because it makes it easier on me in the classroom; they'll be happier and less frustrated in school, at home, and out in the world.I've recommended this book to many parents and colleagues.

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As a parent, you face one of the most challenging—and rewarding—roles of your life. No matter how much you love your child, there will still be moments filled with anger, frustration, and, at times, desperation. What do you do? Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust the Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to child rearing. In this completely updated edition of Positive Discipline A–Z, you will learn how to use methods to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. You’ll find practical solutions to such parenting challenges as:- Sibling Rivalry - Bedtime Hassles - School Problems - Getting Chores Done - ADHD ·Eating Problems - Procrastination - Whining - Tattling and Lying - Homework Battles - And Dozens More!This newly revised and expanded third edition contains up-to-the-minute information on sleeping through the night, back talk, and lack of motivation as well as tips on diet, exercise, and obesity prevention, and new approaches to parenting in the age of computers and cell phones.

The first edition of Positive Discipline A-Z became a classic child-rearing text that helped change the way parents and experts feel about discipline. In this revised and expanded version, child psychologist Jane Nelson (coauthor of the entire Positive Discipline series) teams up with speaker and therapist Lynn Lott and H. Stephen Glenn (Raising Self-Reliant Children). Positive Discipline is based on the theories of child development expert Rudolf Dreikurs, and uses communication, consistency, and specific techniques (such as the four-step follow-through method, taking time for training, giving age-appropriate chores to teach responsibility, and using positive time-outs in which the child takes some time with a calming activity) to help children develop the life skills they need to be "effective, happy, contributing, and respectful members of the family and society." The first part of the text provides an introduction to the concept of positive discipline and its tools. The second part of the book is an alphabetical breakdown of more than 100 child-rearing topics, from addiction to zits--including cruelty to animals, fairness, laundry, negative children, pampering, self-esteem, tattling, whining, and much more. Here, the authors move from general theory to specific suggestions and approaches for hard-core parenting issues. Whether read for theory or read for specificity, this book is terrific--and important. --Ericka Lutz

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Great book

by N. Lee from Colorado on 2005-01-25
This is not a parenting style or system for everyone. With all parenting books, you must pick and choose, taking what you like and leaving the rest. I have read other "discipline" books, most of which are very different from this one, and I have learned things from everything I have read. However, this is one of the few books that resonated with me. I noticed that many parents (present company included) didn't enjoy disciplining their kids. As parents, it is easy to become locked in power struggles with our kids. Based on my observations, I was looking for a book that endorsed a less punitive and more egalitarian approach to the disciplining and training of children. This book approaches disciplining as character-building. In other words, the goal of discipline is to "build up" a child, instead of pushing or even shaming a child into behaving a certain way. There are many important messages in this book, several of which are: balance firmness with kindness; watch what messages your actions and words are sending to your kids; don't expect too much or too little from your child, developmentally; and disciplinary consequences should be related, respectful, and reasonable. Part One gives a good overview of the authors' approach, as well as a concise explanation of pertinent topics such as the roots of poor self-esteem and acting out in anger. Sometimes there was a "cliff notes" feel to this section, but that was OK because Part Two seemed to be the "meat" of the book. My degree is in psychology, so I can say with confidence that this section was based on solid psychology, albeit particular branch(es) of psychology. If you look at parenting as a two-way transformative process, you will learn something about yourself through this section. Part Two is the "A to Z" part of the book. There are many helpful tips on a wide range of discipline issues. The authors emphasize verbal reasoning and consensus-building. They offer suggestions about more physical forms of discipline, but they do not recommend spanking. One note to the prospective buyer: this book is geared toward the older toddler and up (most of the time, the suggestions begin at 2 years of age). There are companion books for 0-3 years and teenagers, so if your kids fall into those categories, you might want to look at the other books as well.

I use this book in the classroom

by from Allah on 2000-08-16
I make sure my student's parents have this book when they arrive in class! This book is like a dictonary for parents! A-Z literally, each alphabet has a few chapters dedicated to the most common problems parents and teachers face.Why is this book so helpful? 1)It guided me to the rehlm of a child's thinking pattern 2)It helped me involve my student's in my own thinking pattern 3)It offers solutions!The solutions are easy to apply, with work of course, and are realistic. I left the book with one main idea..that is..Its all about the attitude. How much do you want to change your habits and work on them? So your children, neices, nephews ect.. will notice the "reaction" you offer them and they will change too based on the descions you decide to present to them! (With action of course)This book is easy to read, wonderful to share, and both mommy and daddy should read it together and involve the whole family in providing a secure, loving and peaceful home!

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Parents spend so much time and energy trying to make their children behave, you would think they would have a deliberate, thought-out system for accomplishing this goal. Most parents, however, lament?? that not only do they not have a?? pre-determined plan, but that the "method" most of them use, punishment, doesn't?? seem to do the trick and it is very unpleasant to administer. It seems that the majority of parents simply don't know any other way to manage bad behavior in their children, so they resort to what their parents did with them--traditional punishment. In his groundbreaking new book, Dr. John Maag explains that the problem with punishment is that it simply doesn't work. It is always contingent on a child's bad behavior, it is based on principles of negative reinforcement and it is always reactive--in other words, a recipe for disaster. In its place, Dr. Maag suggests that parents try his method a proactive approach that focuses on emphasizing and encouraging a child's good behavior rather than trying to decrease his bad behavior. In addition, Dr. Maag suggests using such bad behavior as a focal point for determining which behaviors need to be changed. Although this might seem obvious, it s much more complicated than one would expect. Neither radical nor far-fetched, Maag's system, based on traditional applied behavior analysis techniques, is completely sensible and effective. Step-by-step directions, practical examples, fill-in charts and questionnaires show parents how to effectively manage a wide range of problem behaviors in their children, from minor problems to depression and attention deficit disorder (ADD) Maag's method stresses consistency and positive reinforcement that will shape a child's behavior far more profoundly than will punishment. Filling a long-standing need, Parenting Without Punishment will help parents and teachers promote responsible, independent, creative and secure future adults.

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A practical guide for changing a parent's behavior.

by NICK G from Philadelphia, PA United States on 2001-09-26
:I am surprised that the principles in the book are not more commonly used by educators. Clear and practical information and guidelines cover every page.:Many of the behavioral modifications recommended by Dr. Maag don't just work in our interaction with our kids, they also work quite well with adults. :Probably the most interesting benefit I got from the book has been the opportunity to alter my own behavior, which, in turn, made a world of difference in helping our daughter to alter hers.:Highly recommended reading for parents, educators and for anyone looking to find different, more effective ways of dealing with others and with our own imprinted habits. An open mind is required for the readers of this book to gain any noticeable benefit.

Finally! Why time outs don't usually work

by Allison D from Tucson, AZ United States on 2004-08-06
I learned about this book in a forum on Positive Parenting, and put it on my Amazon wish list. I found it under the Christmas tree when my son was 2 and I've been following the advice in it ever since. Large stretches of this book apply to older children, so I don't feel qualified to comment on those subjects yet (my son is 3 1/2). But the crux of the book is how to identify and isolate a behavior that you want to change. It is such a basic concept and yet so many parenting books fail to explain this. Rather than label your child as "sloppy," identify what you specifically have a problem with (e.g. leaving clothes on the floor). Then you can work with the child to change the behavior. A variety of methods are suggested. These are contrasted against punitive methods that often fail to do much more than demand immediate attention and often lead to children attempting to subvert the rules without understanding them. Maag's discussion about "time outs," the most often suggested and most often misused form of discipline these days, is exceptional. When I read this part of the book, I immediately lost patience for all the experts and unsolicited advice-givers who seem to gush about this form of discipline. The purpose of the "time out," according to Maag, is to remove a child from a situation where he/she is getting negative attention. Used as a punishment, time outs do not end the misbehavior or address the underlying causes of the misbehavior. If a child is doing something just for the negative attention, removing the child to a new environment or simply removing your attention will end the cycle. Parents who angrily walk their kids to a chair in the corner whenever the child blows milk bubbles are giving the child the attention he craves. Because so much of misbehavior is not due to a child trying to get negative attention, Maag contends that time outs are of limited utility. Their use as punishments do not help a child develop self control and may instead perpetuate attempts by the child to get away with things known to be wrong. The actual problem-solving advice given by Maag centers on identifying a problem behavior, discussing your expectations with the child, coming to an agreement, and rewarding progress toward ending the behavior. Therefore, it does not apply to babies or toddlers who are too young to understand the consequences of their actions. It may sound a little to good to be true, and it probably is for people who don't want to put the time or effort into making gradual (and hopefully permanent) changes in a child's behavior. However, I've put the author's philosophy into practice and have been much more relaxed about parenting ever since. I also have a very well-behaved child and can spend quality time with him rather than fighting him at every step.

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2008 Gold Winner of the Mom's Choice Awards, 2008 Winner of the Indie Excellence Awards for Parenting and Family, and 2007 Finalist for Foreword Magazine's Book of the Year! Special parenting skills are needed to raise kids with special needs. Whether your child struggles with allergies, asthma, diabetes, cystic fibrosis, an eating disorder or any other health issue, you will find the essential parenting skills to help your child comply with medical requirements, cope well with health challenges, and live a hope-filled life. Get practical and compassionate answers as you learn effective ways to communicate about health issues with children of all ages. Discover how to: -Promote responsibility without nagging, lecturing or yelling. -Answer your child's tough questions about medical issues. -Empower your child to make wise self-care decisions. -Avoid power struggles and other common parenting traps. -Handle refusal to take medication and do medical treatments. -Avoid the dangers of over-protection. -Prepare your child for the transition to independence. -Navigate sibling, family and couple relationship challenges. This newest addition to Love and Logic's library takes familiar and much-loved Love and Logic concepts to new heights. Foster W. Cline MD is a well-known child psychiatrist and co-founder of Love and Logic. Lisa Greene is the mother of two children with cystic fibrosis. They have teamed up to provide parents and medical providers with a valuable new resource for families who have children with special needs. About Love and Logic® For over thirty years, The Love and Logic Institute has been teaching parents and educators worldwide how to create happy families and raise responsible kids. Love and Logic's powerful, yet easy-to-use, parenting techniques have been adapted for use with children who have special healthcare needs.

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An invaluable, experience-laden guide accessible to parents and caretakers of all backgrounds, highly recommended.

by Midwest Book Review from Oregon, WI USA on 2007-10-06
Child psychiatrist Foster W. Cline and mother of two children with cystic fibrosis Lisa Greene present Parenting Children with Health Issues: Essential Tools, Tips and Tactics for Raising Kids with Chronic Illness, Medical Conditions & Special Healthcare Needs, a guide to learning and applying the parenting skills needed for raising children who require special medical or dietary care. Chapters discuss how to handle a child's refusal to take medication or undergo medical treatments, promote personal responsibility, deal with sibling, family, and couple relationship issues, and much more. "Because chronically ill children can so easily drift into feeling 'unfair-ed upon' by life, some become entitled and demanding, developing and exploiting placating parents who, as their child becomes more demanding, have increasing difficulty separating 'wants' from 'needs.' Entitled people, children or adults, have a tendency to control others through what they define as their 'needs.'" An invaluable, experience-laden guide accessible to parents and caretakers of all backgrounds, highly recommended.

A wise guide for raising empowered children under difficult circumstances

by Laura E. Marshak from on 2007-11-19
This book is a profound yet practical guide to raising resilient children who have significant health issues. The publication of this book can best be described as a gift to families who are faced with far more complex challenges than are found in those with more typical children. These challenges include how to help children feel a sense of control, acceptance and hope while living with serious disorders. It provides a wise guide for helping raise children who are able to embrace life while taking good care of their health conditions. The book reflects a synthesis of the best in parenting skills along with a rich understanding of child psychology, family dynamics and a range of chronic disorders. This wealth of information is distilled for the reader in a format that is easy to follow; readers are provided with numerous examples of how to implement these insights. It is a unique and thorough guide to critical aspects of child-rearing that are just not found anywhere else. I regard this book as simply indispensable for families and professionals alike. It is a gem. Laura E. Marshak Author (with Fran Prezant) of : Married with Special-Needs Children [A couple's guide to keeping connected], Woodbine House 2007

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Nobody knows how teens really feel about things more than teens themselves. In Real Issues Real Teens speaker, columnist, and teen expert T. Suzanne Eller has made it possible for parents to go where their teen often won't let them—inside the teen's thoughts and feelings. Through in-depth interviews, Eller brings to the surface the deepest concerns of teens and combines them with her compassionate insights to form a bridge for parents into the hearts, minds, and souls of their teens. If you have a teenager—you can't afford not to read this book.

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Refreshingly Real!

by Michael Powers from Janesville, WI USA on 2005-03-19
As a youth pastor, coach, and co-author of 21 books(most of them for teens)I highly recommend this book to every parent, every youth pastor, every youth leader, every teacher, and every coach. It was refreshingly "real". I read this book from cover to cover one evening and then I shared it with my wife and all of my youth leaders. I have also purchased extra copies to share with any of the parents of teens in our youth group who may want to read it. It is about time that someone dealt with the real issues that teens are dealing with without all the fluff that you usually find in a book geared towards teens.

A book every parent should read!

by Pamela Farrel from San Diego on 2004-08-27
Suzie Eller has given parents an inside peak, a glimpse behind the curtain of a teen's life. A must read for every parent,teacher, and youth worker! Having raised two teens already and one more to go, I think Suzie's writing is so practical, so helpful and so timely! In today's world it's tough to be a teen and Real Issues, Real Teens just made it a little easier!

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Build a relationship with your children that's so strong, nothing will sever it. From toddlerhood to teen years and beyond, you can make 'real' contact with your kids, forming an unbreakable bond that makes you the person they want to share with and gives you the opportunity to guide and counsel them in every phase of their lives. In Parenting Is a Contact Sport, you will discover how to: Communicate openly with your kids and create a connection that will weather anything life throws your way Help your children learn from their experiences, even through the storms of adolescence, by using effective discipline Stay in touch with the realities of your kids' lives so you can continue to talk with them, even when they're dealing with such important issues as sex and drugs Increase the influence you have over their choices and behaviors so that, even when you can't be there, they use good judgment Develop mutual trust and respect that improves your kids' self-esteem and brings joy and laughter into your home Praise for Parenting Is a Contact Sport: 'This is exactly the kind of book I wish I'd had when I was raising my two kids. Simple concepts made easy by a double pro. Brava!' --Linda Ellerbee, author of Take Big Bites and executive producer of Nick News 'Without jargon or scolding, this book shows you how to build and live a resilient and vibrant connection with your kids and step kids.' --Joe Kelly, author of Dads and Daughters: How to Inspire, Support and Understand Your Daughter and The Pocket Idiot s Guide to Being a New Dad 'Parenting Is a Contact Sport is that valuable, wisdom-packed book that is always there for you as you navigate the challenges of parenthood.' SuEllen Fried, founder of BullySafeUSA and coauthor of Bullies, Targets & Witnesses: Helping Children Break the Pain Chain

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An Essential Guide to Relationship Parenting

by Carrie B. Kisker from California on 2009-03-22
Like many first-time parents, I must have read 10 books on what to expect during my pregnancy, but I only realized on the drive home from the hospital that I didn't own one book on parenting. I immediately bought a few "What to Expect" monoliths, but these tend to focus mainly on what my child will experience as she develops; very little is said about how I and my husband can instill in our child a sense of security, confidence, and enjoyment of life. As I expect many parents will be, I was thrilled to come across Joanne Stern's "Parenting is a Contact Sport." "Parenting is a Contact Sport" fills a very important void in the parenting literature, as it provides the reader with a model or guiding principle for raising confident, honest, and disciplined kids. In essence, Stern's book puts forth the relatively easy-to-understand but much harder-to-implement idea that parenting is essentially an exercise in creating and maintaining open, communicative, and loving relationships with your children. Through anecdotes about raising her own daughters and experiences from her therapy practice, Dr. Stern guides the reader through some of the most difficult aspects of parenting: disciplining your child, setting boundaries, talking about sex and drugs, boosting your child's self-confidence, and letting go when it is time. Although many of the parenting "issues" the book focuses on relate to the teenage years, Stern makes an excellent case that an open and loving relationship with your child from the earliest age is the single most important input in the complicated formula that is raising a confident, honest, and disciplined child, teenager, or young adult. I got much out of reading "Parenting is a Contact Sport" now (my daughter is only 15 months old), and expect that I will consult Stern's book numerous times over the next 17+ years. "Parenting is a Contact Sport" should be required reading for all parents (and even soon-to-be parents!) interested in how they can move beyond taking care of their children and focus on raising them to be young adults we can respect and admire.

Expert, ready-to-use strategies in this great read

by Leslie K. Segal from Washington, D.C. on 2009-03-20
As a middle school teacher, I have observed just what Dr. Stern suggests: successful parent-child relationships result from a thoughtful openness on the parents' part. I recommend this book not only to parents, but also to educators or anyone who plays a principal role in the life of a child. After reading Parenting is a Contact Sport, I have the "how tos" that will help me secure and protect a healthy lifelong relationship with my own kids. Dr. Stern offers her sensible and honest parenting philosophy just in time to this brand new mom. Even though conversations with my newborn are fairly one-sided so far, I have shifted my thinking about communicating with our daughter as she grows. Reading this book helped me gain confidence that--with careful, measured attention--good parenting is a process that conscientious moms and dads can make a habit.

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The terms 'teen pregnancy' and 'teenage parenting' are rife with moral accusations and factual ambiguities. Arising from a conference at Ryerson Polytechnical University, these nine original essays delimit and clarify the multifarious facts that affect how Canadian society both responds to, and creates, the phenomenon of the teen parent. The contributors bring expertise from diverse disciplines - sociology, history, and philosophy - to address the pressing question: what should social policy be on the issues of teen pregnancy and parenting? An analysis of data from Nova Scotia discusses the material consequences of adolescent parenting - more poverty, less income, and less home ownership - but also challenges certain assumptions about the extent of such consequences. A discussion of focus-group results reveals that consideration of the socioeconomic barriers facing young single mothers, when given the necessary attention, suggests an often ignored set of issues relevant to judgments about responsibility: the experience of personal growth, the struggle to solve their own problems, and the search for independence. Delving in the ethics of responsibility and untangling the meaning of the term 'social construction' sets the context for policy debates on sophisticated, non-reductive terrain.The study's new findings, the interdisciplinary approach, and the Canadian focus makes this unique gathering of facts and ideas of central importance to students of sociology, health and women's studies, philosophy, urban youth culture, and public policy.